19. February 2010

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Ways To Communicate So the Young Ones Will Pay Attention!

Ways To Communicate So the Young Ones Will Pay Attention!

A significant part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way you talk to your child shows him how to communicate with others. Here are some talking suggestions I’ve learned with my children:

1. Connect before you direct

Before giving your kids instructions, bend down to your kid’s eye level and engage your kids in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach them how to focus: “Jimmy, I need your eyes.” “Jane, I need your ears.” Give exactly the same body language when listening to the child. Be sure not to make your eye contact so intense that your kid perceives it as controlling rather than connecting. You don’t want to scare them. Fear is NOT the answer (I tried that at first!)

2. Address the child

Open your request using the child’s name, “Xavier, will you please…” ( I have to use this because they will ignore me assuming I’m talking to the other child)

3. Stay brief (especially with young ones)

I try to make use of the one-sentence rule: Put the main instruction in the beginning sentence. The more time you ramble, the more likely your child will become parent-deaf. Excessive talking is an extremely typical mistake when dialoging about an issue. It increases the childs feeling that you’re not quite sure what it is you want to say. If they are able to keep you talking they will get you sidetracked.

4. Keep simple

Use short sentences with one-syllable words. LISTEN to how kids talk with each other and take note. Whenever your child shows that glazed, “I’m not paying attention” look, you are no longer being understood or even listened to.                                                                                            

5. Ask your child to repeat instructions or your request back to you

If he or she can’t, it’s too long or too difficult.

As my kids get older, I realize how important it is to have open communication and that they learn respect for me. Stayed tuned mommies because I will be sharing more ways that you can communicate with your kids.  We need to bridge this gap so that we can teach our kids better ways to make better decisions in life.

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9. February 2010

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My Little Boys Best Hair Cut

My Little Boys Best Hair Cut

I had a proud moment with my little boy because I did something I don’t typically do and it turned out great. My little boy, Xavier, usually gets his best hair cut from my boyfriend, Gary. However, Gary is out of town this week on business and he left without [...]

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8. February 2010

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Benefits of Grocery Savings

Benefits of Grocery Savings
Hi Mommies,
I ran across this video about grocery savings. If I can master this technique I would be dangerous! Have you guys seen this?

In this economy this kind of grocery saving would be life saving? I hope this helps mommies…..
I wonder if this grocery saving works with other stuff? I’m going to [...]

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6. February 2010

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“Win A Dinner For 2 for You and Your Sweet Valentine”

“Win A Romantic Dinner For 2 for You and Your Sweet Valentine”

Hey Mommies,
You can win a romantic dinner for 2 for you and your sweet valentine! I wanted to do something fun for the mommies who deserve a romantic evening this Valentines Day. I love my “sweet valentine” (my honey!) but he has a little [...]

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3. February 2010

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Why Are These Children Crying?

Why Are These Children Crying?

OK Mommies,
I am getting so sick of my children crying! I have a daily routine I try follow with the kids to alleviate all the chaos we had before. In the morning I try to keep things light and easy but, while getting ready, I hear the children crying.  On the [...]

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